How often do you catch yourself saying, "Why can't I just stop doing 'X'?" The 'X' may be eating excess junk food, or getting angry over little things like being cut off in traffic, or just about anything else that doesn't have an addictive nature to it (e.g. smoking, doing drugs, etc.).
If you have a specific response to a specific situation it is what we call an "anchor" in NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). So let's say every time you see a black dog you immediately tense up, even if it's one of those little tea-cup size doges. Somewhere along the line, most likely when you were very young, a black dog did something that frightened you to the point of where black dog = fear. The black dog becomes the anchor.
Now some of you maybe thinking, "But there was no black dog in my past." Sometimes our brain will do what is called a deletion. Basically, your subconscious deleted (at least to conscious mind) the event to protect you from reliving it over and over, in turn somewhat paralyzing you. So your subconscious stores it in a special vault where only it can access it to keep you out of harms way.
If you have a specific response to a specific situation it is what we call an "anchor" in NLP (neuro-linguistic programming). So let's say every time you see a black dog you immediately tense up, even if it's one of those little tea-cup size doges. Somewhere along the line, most likely when you were very young, a black dog did something that frightened you to the point of where black dog = fear. The black dog becomes the anchor.
Now some of you maybe thinking, "But there was no black dog in my past." Sometimes our brain will do what is called a deletion. Basically, your subconscious deleted (at least to conscious mind) the event to protect you from reliving it over and over, in turn somewhat paralyzing you. So your subconscious stores it in a special vault where only it can access it to keep you out of harms way.
Change does not have to be a long, drawn out process.
The change happens in an instant. Someone jumps out from behind a door and says "Boo." How long did it take you to jump and be frightened? Instantly, right? We don't have to take a long time to make the change. And if it happens enough times, especially in short succession, we anchor the door to being scared.
The good news is that changing and anchor can happen just about as quickly. This is what NLP practitioners specialize in. They help people to get rid of anchors that no longer serve them, or install new anchors to help them neutralize old anchors whenever they pop up.
NLP practitioners are becoming more prevalent all the time, but finding one still may be a little challenging. NLP was Tony Robbins claim to fame. You can read his books or listen to his audios to get a good idea of how it works. There are many other sources, both in book form and audio form that may work better for you.
The moral of the story is, don't think changing how you think or a poor response to certain situations will take forever to change. It can be undone almost as quickly as it was done.
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